From Conflict to Clarity : Navigating Resentment MMH

I don't know if you know this, but I love conflict. because on the other side of conflict, there's growth. There's understanding, there's clarity, there's momentum going forward. And I heard this super awesome quote. I think it was Jordan Peterson. His quote goes like this, conflict avoided is conflict multiplied. And the first time I heard that, I was like, Oh my goodness. I know exactly what you're talking about because there was times in my life where I hid from conflict, where I avoided. Speaking my mind where I didn't stand my ground, when I didn't hold my space, and that just bubbled up into resentment. And then every time that person, whether they were doing it on purpose or not, anything they did that bugged me, I assigned intent to their actions. And so that conflict that I avoided by not holding my space and helping them understand that that my bubble was busted. Turned into this festering thing of resentment and frustration, and then bubbled into this victim mentality or even a victim state. Then I finally started just having the conversation. And I'll tell you what, most of the time. It works out well. People are like, Oh, I didn't know that was a thing, or they'll say, well, that's the way it's going to be. And then I get to make a decision and move the hell on or stay there and tolerate it. Either way, the next step is ultimately clearer after I go into the conflict. And so the question to you is. How much conflict are you multiplying because you have not confronted it? Be cool, and we'll talk at you next time. Peace!